Naww...When Harry Met Meghan

Everyone loves a good fairytale romance.

We can't help ourselves. Whether you're a royalist or not, there is something that captures the hearts and imaginations of women the world over when a handsome young prince plucks his beautiful princess-to-be from amongst the 'commoners'.

It gives us hope that one day it might happen to us (or is that just me!)

It is true fairytale stuff.

And it annoys me that a Prince-Harry-engages-actress-Meghan-Markle story evokes this response in me. It tells me that, despite everything - despite the fact that I have created all I have in my life, despite the fact that I have been quietly determined to achieve a life and career I love - deep down, I am conditioned to desire to be scooped up and rescued.

It is conditioning.

Joseph Campbell, an American mythologist and writer of the 20th century, studied the stories of all the cultures in the world and identified there was a common theme - a story of a restless young person, called to a purpose, who faces struggle, and personal demons, and ultimately conquers. The theme appears in Bambi, Luke Skywalker, Greek mythology - it's the basic premise of just about every story ever written, spoken or shot on film...and none of these heroes are women.

You see, women wait.

In this scenario, women feature as mothers, wives, or daughters, waiting for the hero to return victorious. Women have waited for centuries - waiting for husbands and sons to return from war; waiting to be rescued by a prince or a knight in shining armour, waiting for Dad to 'fix' things...

And we're still waiting...

We have made great advances so that we can choose, to a large extent, how we desire to live and work, and yet:

  • We wait for our good work to be recognised, rather than actively being more visible, or asking for a promotion.
  • We wait for the company to pay for our personal and career development, rather than proactively making learning and growing a lifelong mission. (Really? Your own personal development is someone else's responsibility?)
  • We wait for a raise to be offered before actively asking for one.
  • Sometimes, we'll even stay in an unhappy or dysfunctional relationship or job because we're waiting for something (the kids to grow up, the mortgage to be paid off, etc).

So I urge you to STOP WAITING.

Write your own story and be your own hero and inspiration.

How are you waiting in your life and career? What are you waiting for? What obstacles are you putting up that are really just excuses in disguise?

If you'd like help to break down the barriers you've created to living and working as you desire, book a call and let's discuss where you are now, where you want to be in the future, and how to get you there. 

Clarity is Everything...Still

I went to an elegant soiree last night at the ElssCollection, a new concept store in the 8th arrondissement that showcases the designer fashion available to rent - a perfect solution to the "I have nothing to wear" dilemma we women have when faced with attending an important event, wedding, or gala. Personally, I can see myself using this service frequently.

I was there to listen to the co-founder of ElssCollection, Pascale Guasp, and the founder of L'Esprit Francais, Deborah Soudry who shared their experiences of moving from employee to entrepreneur. It was interesting to hear the two women of different ages and different business types describe what led them to make the decision to leave their 'safe' corporate positions for the relative uncertainty of entrepreneurship.

For Mme Guasp, she was moving TOWARDS a new life. She had had a successful 20-year corporate career and was now ready for something new. Mme Soudry, by contrast, spoke of how disappointed she was with corporate life. She was ambitious, wanting more and quickly, and a corporate environment just could not deliver. She had to just do her job rather than come up with ideas to improve. It did not satisfy her. So hers was a decision to MOVE AWAY from the status quo.

Which are you?

My other takeaway from last night's soiree was, to use Mme Guasp's words, "The number one 'skill' you must have [as an entrepreneur] is vision." YES!

Clarity of vision is everything.

  • To creating a business plan that simply flows right out of you.
  • To securing finance - if you can express your vision with real clarity and passion, you are more able to convince investors.
  • To getting clients - if you are that clear and passionate about your vision, who wouldn't want what you have to offer?
  • To making decisions with clarity - all the time bringing your decisions back to your vision and values.
  • To perseverance - when the going gets tough (and it will, at times), your clarity of vision and faith in it becoming reality is what will keep you going.
  • To LOVING what you do!

So what is your vision?

Need help with it?

I help women create clarity of vision of how they desire to live and work, to create a business that fits like a second skin so they can get started fast.

I offer a FREE one-hour 1:1 session to give you clarity of vision, and to discuss your business idea and challenges, so you can start planning. Book a call today.