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[NEW PODCAST EPISODE] Money matters

A new episode of my podcast, the Womanly Art of Leadership Sessions has just been released and it's one of my favourite topics:

MONEY!

It's not that I'm money-hungry (though it certainly allows me to live a life of freedom), but it is because the topic is so full of angst for people, especially women.

"Money is like sex - no-one talks about it but we're all supposed to know how to do it" Michelle Gyimah

Join me on this episode where Michelle Gyimah, a money mindset and women's empowerment coach talks about her guilty secret of debt, and how overcoming it, taking control and leading herself out of it led to other areas of her life improving too.

If you haven't yet subscribed to the Womanly Art of Leadership Sessions podcast, do so over at Apple Podcasts (you know, old skool iTunes) or by registering here.

How food can lead to leadership - seriously?

A new episode of the Womanly Art of Leadership Sessions podcast has been released and this week, I'm speaking with Dana Dinnawi, a health and well-being coach who discusses the importance of food to leadership.

What? Really?

She describes how taking charge of your food, eating 'clean' and being more mindful about it leads to better habits in other areas of your life too.

More focus.

Better clarity.

You can't give the best of yourself if you're running on empty - Dana Dinnawi.

Listen in and if you haven't already subscribed, do it here

How you can transform your decision-making

Hello you!

I've spent the last week in nothing short of transformation.

A week in gorgeous and surprising Mallorca with my high-level mentor and about 100 other women entrepreneurs. If you've seen previous posts, you'll have seen that in Maui earlier this year, I had a transformation on-stage that literally changed my business focus. This time - yes, I got on stage again!

Here's what I got out of my week.

In the coaching world, we're always talking about mindset - and I agree, a great mindset changes everything in our life and career. Being able to flip the switch from negative to positive takes some skill and constant energy.

What I realised this week is that mindset - the concept of wrestling with the mind to quieten the inner critic voices - is still very much a masculine construct. It's an idea based around control.

I want you to listen to your heart.

Whether you call it your intuition, instinct or gut, it's this feminine and often under-developed part of us that truly knows what the soul needs, but our mind chatters away over the top. So, getting practiced at tuning into the heart allows us to elevate the importance of this feeling, which in turn naturally drowns out the chatter. There is no need for control or suppression. It is about being open and tuning into your heart in a bodily way - how does it feel as you take a decision?

That is a much more pleasurable daily practice.

So I encourage you to stop thinking, stop controlling, stop doing, and start listening to your heart. It is wise beyond words and knows what your soul needs. It requires stillness to listen closely.

How do you do that?

Start by sitting still and quietly, simply breathing in deeply three times when you're faced with a choice or a decision, feel the sensations in your body - where and what do you feel? Go with whatever comes up. Don't question it; don't second-guess it; just go with it. When we act in true alignment with what our soul needs, the frenetic buzzing in the head will simply melt away.

I'd love to hear how you go with this practice. It's transformational!

Go over to my Facebook page and ask to join my private group Design Your Days - Life & Work on Your Terms and share what you find in this practice.

Bisous x

These 2 Words Could Quite Literally Change Your Life!

Every morning, as part of my ‘success routine’ (which includes meditation, yoga, and journaling as well), I read - usually a couple of books on the go at any one time. It is the second time I have read Gabrielle Bernstein’s bestseller “The Universe Has Your Back” and this time around, I was struck by the message I received today.

These two words could quite literally change your life…

CHOOSE AGAIN

At any given moment in life, we are free to choose again - a different thought, a different behaviour, a different road, a different response, a different action. The last decision didn’t work out so well? Choose again. It’s like a 'Sliding Doors* moment' every freaking second of the day.

We are not wedded to a decision we took in the past, or a behavioural or thought pattern that is simply a habit or a pattern inherited from our parents. Just because we a chose a decision or habit that served us in the past does not mean we are required to choose it now. There is a tendency to attach a lot of 'story' or drama to a decision - that if we take it, there is no going back. How far from the truth could we be?

  • Cut off by some jerk in a BMW on the way to work? Choose a different response and see how it changes the tone of your day.
  • Fed up with being treated like an assistant by your colleagues? Choose a different attitude and see how you get treated.
  • Fear of putting yourself out there and 'being seen' is keeping you playing small in your career? Choose to be more visible and see how being seen leads to more opportunities.
  • Tired of not living exactly as you had hoped you’d be by this time of your life? Choose one small step on a different path and see what transpires.
  • Feeling sluggish and unhappy with your weight? Choose a different meal or activity and see how you feel after a week of choosing differently.

Every moment of the day is an opportunity to literally change your life - in some small way that will lead to massive change, or in one gi-normous leap to massive change!

It’s liberating to think of life like that; knowing that the very next decision you make could quite literally change the course of your life. And if it doesn't work out..."simples" - you take another!

Wow. Just wow.

Exciting, or what?

So what are you going to choose next?

Remember - one slight shift is all it takes.

Here's your first decision - let's chat.

*Anyone born after 1998 may not get this reference! Sliding Doors was a film starring Gwyneth Paltrow - the film itself wasn’t up to much but the concept was brilliant. The story alternates between two parallel universes depending on the decisions taken by the two central characters. Watch it.

Vulnerable Share: Reality Bites

I'm writing this on the terrace of the Ritz Carlton in Maui, overlooking the deep Pacific Ocean, local reggae tunes softly grooving in the background, frolicking, mating whales in the deep blue in front of me (seriously)...
 

BLISS.


It's MY bliss. It's what I aimed to create when I left corporate 18 months ago - a life doing what I love doing - helping people to achieve all they desire - while traveling and working from any point of the compass. I've created this lifestyle, and sometimes it's a lot to take in.
 

But this is not what this post is about.


I have been so grateful for all the words of encouragement from my friends and connections, and their words that I inspire them. I am truly grateful - but let me say, too, this has not come easily. I have created it but it comes at a cost.

Behind the freedom lifestyle, the high vibe public face, I still have challenges, just like you. A lifestyle like this, or any desire we have, comes with its own challenges.

Relationship issues? Loads!
Self-doubt? Uh-huh!
Fear of visibility and judgement? Yup!
Financial investment? You betcha!

Yes, I've never been happier, and I am living exactly as I designed in my head a few years ago, but it has come at a cost. What I have found though, by being so clear about what I want to achieve, is that I have greater resiliency, and I am able to get back on track when there are bumps in the road.

And there have been BIG bumps in the road.

My point is - well, there are several:

  • Clarity of purpose (what we are driven to do on this fine earth) and vision (how we want to live and work) is so freaking important. It is the glue that holds everything together when the wheels fall off. Knowing what you are aiming to achieve keeps the path clear of clutter.
  • You get what you focus on. My focusing on traveling the world and working to serve others the best way I know how is not just good marketing for those seeking inspiration, it creates more of the same. Focus on the good stuff; more good stuff comes your way.
  • If it's worth doing, it's worth not just doing well, but it's worth fighting for. It's about being clear on 'non-negotiables'. For me, I am non-negotiable about how I desire to live and work, so, even when the challenges come my way, I will find a way to make it happen. It means asserting boundaries where they have been very flexible in the past, and not served me well. It means being uncompromising about what I tolerate; and when the Universe sends its playful challenges our way (oh, and it does!), how we respond is more important than the outcome.
  • Creating what you desire is not a 'set and forget' setting. It's not something we achieve then sit back and enjoy the spoils (though there are sustained periods like that). It is about consistently working towards our goals - laser-focused and unwavering, being true to ourselves and our desires when so much will challenge our resolve.

Sound scary?

It can be, but it is also exhilarating to realise we have overcome those challenges and we're living exactly as we desire.

What do you want to create? What is your ideal lifestyle? Let's chat to figure it out together.