I'm loving the feedback and conversations I'm having lately in response to my blogs, posts and comments on various social media.
A recent conversation occurred on LinkedIn in response to an article published in Arianna Huffington's publication, Thrive Global. Read it here.
The author writes about the word 'should' and how it is the one word to banish from our vocabulary. I've written about this before in my blog, "There's no good in should."
My comment in response to the Thrive Global article on LinkedIn was that if we have emotional connection to our goals, there is no space for 'should.'
A question from one of the LinkedIn community to me was, "Why is it some people find it easier to connect emotionally than others?"
A great question - and a big response!
We are emotional beings. Emotions are powerful and strong and big and scary and joyous all at the same time. We are taught from a very young age that emotions are to be feared "Stop crying!" "Don't shout!" "Calm down!" Boys are told not "to be a girl" with their emotions, and girls are told to stop being so emotional. Whichever gender you are, there is no place for emotion in our upbringing.
Does that go some way in answering the question?
Through the years, we lose touch with our emotions, to the point that when asked to recall a memory, some people profess to feel nothing, despite the fact that it is impossible for us to recall a memory without experiencing some emotion. It is simply that we have learned to ignore it, stamp it out, not recognise the emotion. To open ourselves up to these emotions is how we can connect emotionally, not just to goals, but to our relationships, to our decisions, to our intuition.
Emotions are a powerful tool in living our lives and creating careers that are exactly as we desire.
No 'shoulds' required when you're emotionally connected to the outcome.
P.S. I'd love to hear about your experience - do you 'should' yourself? Is what you're 'should-ing' yourself about really something you desire or feel emotionally connected to? Let me know. Message or email me.
P.P.S. If you'd like to discuss a way of having fewer 'shoulds' in your life so you can create a life and career you LOVE, and step into your power and confidence, message or email me. I won't send any booking links - let's keep it personal.