"Your resistance to playing the game means you're out of the game"
I read this in a relationship coach's blog - it was with reference to the dating game. If you're resisting putting yourself out there, you're taking yourself out of the game of ever meeting someone; but it got me thinking...
What else could this be a reference to?
For a lot of people, including myself, being visible is an area where there is resistance - resistance to taking centre stage (preferring to lurk in the shadows or being the best damn 2IC but never stepping into the spotlight of leadership); not putting yourself out there in so many ways - creating an extraordinary life and work, marketing yourself (or 'self-promotion' which is considered negatively), dating and relationships.
For me, I am conflicted. While I enjoy being centre stage at some level (I love public speaking and I used to do amateur dramatics), putting myself out there in my capacity as a coach challenges me. It makes me uncomfortable. Good God - what if people judge me?! (The horror!)
And being uncomfortable is exactly what we must strive for in order to effect change and to get different results.
"Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results" Commonly attributed to Albert Einstein.