Who's Your Tribe?

Ritz-Carlton, Marina del Rey: where I found my tribe

Ritz-Carlton, Marina del Rey: where I found my tribe

Ever spent time in the presence of someone who constantly complains about everything - their life, the commute to work, their recent shopping experience with the rude assistant? How did it feel? Remind you of that old adage, "Misery loves company?"

I have just spent four days in the presence of some seriously high-vibe individuals at a high-end academy of business and personal development for women entrepreneurs. It was, frankly, nothing other than life-changing. Around 200 other women on the same trajectory of business and personal growth gave me a serious attitude re-adjustment after falling into some habits that, if left to gestate, could kill my goals of business and personal success. The vibration of positive individuals like this is contagious, and it brought to mind how, even though I consider myself to be a positive person, I allow negativity to creep in and colour my thoughts, my demeanour and productivity. This simply makes my road to business success harder - full of wasted energy.

The experience this week in LA made me realise just how critical it is to surround yourself with the right people, a tribe of like-minded folk, to achieve your goals, nudge you in the right direction and celebrate your successes.

Personally, I believe we need others to help achieve our goals - it can be a hard, lonely road on our own. Support from your tribe gives you the wherewithal to relentlessly pursue specific outcomes even when the going gets tough - a non-judgemental, compassionate, supportive tribe.

So what has all this to do with you?

Regardless of where you are at the moment - facing redundancy, considering a career change, facing other personal or career challenges, stop and take a look at who you have around you. Are they the type of person who will consistently remain positive for you, provide you with the right type of emotional support, advance you in the direction you wish to go in life or career? I'm not talking about having "Yes" men or women around you, but people who truly believe in you and your aspirations, those who will remain positive, and give you guidance when you need it - attitude-adjusters, if you will.

Do a stock-take of those around you. If they do not fit with your aspirations, you may want to talk frankly with them to see if they have it in them to support you as you need. If not, you may need to make some tough decisions about who you see and how often. They don't have to be expelled totally from your life, but you may want to use prudence in how you interact with them.

Something to consider. My experience this week has certainly made me think carefully about my tribe. And seriously - how can I not be positive and high-vibe with a view like that??