Before we even start, let's just pause...
In all the world, whose opinion and ideas do you trust without reservation?
Husband, wife, partner, mother, father, bestie,...?
Did you say YOU at all?
Whether we're taking decisions in our personal lives or in business, we all frequently ask for the opinion of others, "What do you think I should do? What's your view?"
Nothing wrong with it. It's great to get another viewpoint - perhaps we have missed something that's staring at us in the face that could be the perfect solution.
The problem is, it can also mess with your head.
Everyone has a different perspective, experience, belief systems grounded in social, cultural, ethnic, religious norms, their own baggage, and their own agenda. So while it's interesting to get an alternative viewpoint, be aware that they are coming at the problem from a different place which may also work to your detriment.
I found this when I first started as a coach entrepreneur. Two people I respected as friends and coaches had two very different opinions and experiences regarding effective marketing. As a new entrepreneur, I was keen to learn, absorbing all the information I could to ensure my business was a success (I still do!) So I sought these opinions out. Problem is their opinions were at either ends of the spectrum. One would say one thing, the other would say the polar opposite.
I lost all self-trust, confidence in my own intuition and what felt good for me and my business as I gave more weight to them and their guidance. All it did was make me procrastinate. Instead of deciding on a clear strategy, I did a 'little bit of this, and a little bit of that.' Those annoying perfectionist tendencies I have learned to quell ("better done than perfect" is my new mantra!) crept back in - I was fearful of "getting it wrong."
Ultimately, in business and in life decisions, we have to trust ourselves first and foremost. Listening word-for-word and 100% to others is giving up our power to someone else. Seeking opinions from more experienced people is great, but consider how their advice applies to you, your business, your life, and ask yourself, "Is this true for me?" "Does this feel right for my business/life?"
So, tell me, who do you trust most?
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